Christian dating for young people

podcast and answered ten questions on singleness and dating.We get a lot of questions from young Christian men and women who are “not yet married.” Their season of life awakens many desires and hopes, uncertainties and insecurities, and tricky pastoral questions.

To help find the right questions, we called on three not-yet-married friends who gave some time to thinking about the challenges faced by singles: Lore Ferguson, Paul Maxwell, and the recently engaged Marshall Segal.

We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).

Is it wrong for a couple to live together before they are married? Does God have one specific person for you to marry? Can/should a Christian who is a virgin marry someone who is not a virgin? What should I do if I cannot decide who I should be dating? Why is living together before marriage considered living in sin?

How young is too young to be in a romantic relationship? Is it possible to love a person without liking that person? What are valid reasons for breaking up with a boyfriend/girlfriend?

But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.

I think what you are looking for is seriousness about growth in the person’s faith.

Is there such a thing as “too fast” in Christian dating?

How do you know if a dating relationship is moving too quickly emotionally, or too quickly toward marriage?

What does the Bible say about sex before marriage / premarital sex? Does the Bible teach that there is a gift of celibacy?

What is an appropriate level of intimacy before marriage? What does the Bible say about interracial marriage? Are we supposed to be actively looking for a spouse, or wait for God to bring a spouse to us? Can I start dating, or do I have to wait until the divorce is final?

Because what I have tragically found is that Christian singles hit an area of desperation, particularly young women, and they will go: “Yeah, he is a Christian, he comes to church.” And really what they’re saying is this guy comes to church a couple of times a month, but outside of attending a service, he doesn’t have a real seriousness about growing in his understanding of the Lord, growing in his understanding of the Bible, being a prayerful person, no vivication or mortification that can be spotted, and no one who really knows them enough to speak to the growth in their character.

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