Good introductory email dating

Because my landlord is really getting tired of that.

Olivia offers a good deal of advice on what a guy (or girl, for that matter) 50 other guys have asked her “how are you”, “any plans for the weekend”, “how is your week going”, so don’t be surprised when I don’t answer if that’s the ENTIRE text of your message.

You’ve found a dating site you want to use, and you’ve created a profile, complete with your most flattering photos.

Further, exactly how much should you say about yourself in this message?

The Common-Sense Approach Here are three tips that may increase your chances of a reply to your first contact message: What the Research Says A study conducted by Schöndienst and Dang-Xuan (2011) examined which style of first contact message was most likely to receive a reply.

It’s advice that I believe applies to all of us, whether we’re searching for a cute older straight guy or an exotic younger lesbian lady. She’s happy to answer more questions, so if you have any quandaries of your own, send them my way, and I’ll see what we can do.

Oh, and before she finished, Olivia hand one more It’s Not a Match credo to reinforce: If you want to get my attention, your only bet is to send an email, because that’s the only reason I’m going to look at your profile.

To elucidate her point, Olivia sent me a screengrab of her inbox. I have had some guys seriously send multiple messages with no responses.

I don’t know what they’re thinking, but clearly they can’t take a hint.

Just because someone is hot doesn’t mean I’m going to respond, either.

In fact, most of the best looking guys write pathetic emails.

I have never sent a third, fourth, or fifth email, but now I kinda want to, just to see what happens.

As long as what happens isn’t the cops showing up at my house.

About 50% of the emails I get are complete jokes, 25% good, 15% great, and 10% amazing.

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